7/13/2013

Burning Bras while Picking Afros


SimplyBe, Natural Hair
Ironically, the last thing that I accepted on my body was my hair, not being fat. I know it may sound crazy, but I remember battling my hair for so many years and being envious of the girls with relaxers.  They got to wake up in the morning with no frizz and bone straight hair.  I did try the relaxer thing, but soon I had a sink full of hair from breakage within only a couple of months of having it.  I even made my younger brother iron my hair (He would never admit to it today).  I used to think of straight hair of not only being more polished,  but I thought it had the power to allow me to blend in to society.  It's what was on the commercials and what everyone seemed to be aspiring to have. In the mind of a teenager who was being raised in a small town in the south, biracial (which because of my location was an anomaly in itself), & stuck out like a sore thumb blending was this sanctuary of normality that I was always trying to find me way to.  Straight hair , for me, didn't exist until the Chi came out. I got it there a few times before, but with Georgia humidity it never lasted long. Fast forward to my socialite days in Atlanta, I would straighten for a night out (because that's what the boys wanted) and then I would come home hair as big as Diana Ross.  My friends would find me at the end of the night by looking for the tall girl with the big hair. Now that I'm writing this, my hair envy was based on what others thought was beautiful and not what I thought.   

Three things had to happen for me to accept my hair.  The first was moving to Dallas. It's nearly impossible to even hope to have straight hair there.  It's so hot that all you want to wear is a ponytail or a bun and if you are going to do that what's the point in putting heat on your hair when you don't have to.  The second was that I really got into plus size blogging and breaking rules, what others wanted or thought was null and void.  Finally, the start of the natural hair movement.  African American girls were tossing their relaxers out the door and embracing their natural hair texture.  I remember walking past this girl in the movies.  Her hair was the most gorgeous texture I had ever seen.  It looked like cotton candy.   My jaw hit the floor.  I so get it now.   These girls were owning their tresses. Self acceptance in any arena is a great thing whether it's hair, weight, etc.  Not to take away from anyone with straight hair.  There is beauty in all textures. There is something so empowering about tossing society's beauty standards out the window. So this is a special shout to the natural hair girls.  I've been natural most of my life, but because of yall I accepted and am now embracing it.  

Style Note:  First off, I absolutely adore this look.  This definitely brought me out of my "Mexicoma." I've been getting bored with myself and really want to start wearing pants more.   They are such a hard fit for me, but I really want to get out of my own box.  I put my own twist on this look from SimplyBe.   When ordering this I didn't like the neckline of the top.  It's a v-neck and was kind of weird.  It was not deep enough, in my opinion.  I was worried about it and when I ordered my intuition on the neckline was right.  I hated it on me.  I was ready to send it back, but I thought maybe I could wear it backwards. I love a boatneck.  The zipper is invisible and unless you were all up in my personal space you wouldn't know.   Then I thought what about a hint of sexy by going unzipped and bra-less. Yes no bra! (I kind of was in a burning bra mood while reading all the updates with Texas and their shenanigans.) It's the unexpected sexy.  I've never really do "in your face" sexy all that well just because that's not me, but "sneak up on you" sexy is me all day.    Below you see the look zipped up, because I know that everybody can't whip out the girls all willy nilly and if you choose to wear it backward you can choose your own zipper height. The pants of this outfit only have elastic in the waist.  I was thinking that the actual pants were going to have some give because of the fabric content, but that content is referring to the elastic in the waist band.  In my opinion, these pants are cut wide in the stomach hip area and slimmer in the legs.  They fit just right in the thighs, but were too big in the waist and hip.  Because of the elastic in the waist, I did a quick alteration.  You know how little kids have that elastic you can pull in the waist band, so their pants wont fall down.  That's what I did.  On the inside of the pants, I pulled out a portion of the elastic, so that I could tighten the pants in the front and the back.  I could couple this with a shorter shirt and you wouldn't be able tell I did anything to them.   This is a tailored look. The fabric really has no give, so be sure to use the size chart to order.  I'm also shapewear-less in this garment. The peplum provides me tummy coverage and the fabric is thick enough and the fabric is so busy that you can't hope to see any cellulite issues.   It's like the perfect summer outfit and with the coupon (its on the website) it cost me like $60.   
SimplyBe, Natural Hair


SimplyBe, Natural Hair


SimplyBe, Natural Hair

SimplyBe, Natural Hair
Outfit:  Top - SimplyBe, Bottom - SimplyBe, Belt - Asos (similar), Shoes - Loft (similar), Watch - Michael Kors, Lip - MAC